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Job of Being A Mother :)

Job of Being a Mother When….

1. You count the sprinkles on each kid’s cupcake to make sure they’re equal.
2. You have time to shave only one leg at a time.
3. You hide in the bathroom to be alone.
4. Your kid throws up and you catch it.
5. Someone else’s kid throws up at a party. You keep eating.
6. You consider finger paints to be a controlled substance.
7. You’ve mastered the art of placing large quantities of pancakes and eggs on a plate without anything touching.
8. Your child insists that you read “Once Upon a Potty” out loud in the lobby of Grand Central Station and you do it.
9. You cling to the high moral ground on toy weapons; your child chews his toast into the shape of a gun.
10. You hope ketchup is a vegetable, since it’s the only one your child eats.
11. You can’t bear the thought of your son’s first girlfriend.
12. You hate the thought of his wife even more.
13. You find yourself cutting adult’s sandwiches into cute shapes.
14. You can’t bear to give away baby clothes-it’s so final.
15. You hear your mother’s voice coming out of your mouth when you say, “NOT in your good clothes!”
16. You stop criticizing the way your mother raised you.
17. You donate to charities in the hope that your child won’t get that disease.
18. You hire a sitter because you haven’t been out with your other adults in ages, then spend half the night checking on the kids.
19. You use your own saliva to clean your child’s face.
20. You say at least once a day, “I’m not cut out for this job”, but you know you wouldn’t trade it for anything.


Don’t Fight in front of kids

Every child would have seen their parents fighting and I am one among them. If we try to find the root cause for everything, then it will mainly be related to one or more of the following Р financial needs, possessiveness, incapacity, feeling helpless and low confidence.

My parents had fight over everything… My mom never liked my dad speaking with any ladies. I and my siblings used to cry whenever they have a fight because of this reason. They learned to control the budget but they never learned how to control their words in front of their children. It hurt us to see them fighting, every time. The only way that they compromised is by my mom doing satya graha for 2 days or so. As the days went on, it became casual for us. We know that they will get back together, no matter how big the fight was..

Now if you ask me, how my childhood days were? All I can remember is their fight and very little happy moments. Sometimes the happy moments will have a small fight. I even remember one fight which happened in the midnight (day of my b’day) when I was 6 years old. It hurts me even now.

My parents taught us one thing from their fights- Never fight before a child. I wouldn’t say, never fight at all because it means that you are having misunderstandings. Fight does make us understand about our partner but fighting in front of our children is the worst thing that you can ever do. Create more happy memories for them. One day, they should be able to tell their spouse that they had a very happy childhood.

I have told many stories to my husband about the happy moments that happened in my school, college or in office but never with my family together. I had to search my brain for atleast 30 seconds to get something like that.

If you have something to fight about, it is ok to let the children know that you are fighting by having it inside your room. But make sure that they also know the reason for your fight and how you are handling it. Because when they grow up, they should know how to handle fights too. They cannot just go and hide in the bedroom and cry for the whole day.

I and my husband always had fight over silly things but it never went more than half a day. It takes a lot of effort to kill your ego and talk, and that is what helped us so far. We are trying to build lots of happy memories for Lily and we hope that our bond will get stronger in the course of our journey.

Still, I am proud about my parents because they stayed together through all these fights even when we had lost hope. They still fight over silly things but we just joke about it now.