My First iPhone App

About the app

It was in the year 2010, I was thinking about how to engage or entertain little ones for at least 10 mins and that’s how this app originated. It is a simple app – one or more blue circles appear in the places where you touched. Now, if I want Lily occupied for some 5 to 10 mins then I just open this app and turn on the Guided access. It works all the time!!!

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/ring-effect-hd/id388830512?mt=8

How the app itself originated?

Getting a job in US is not easy as a tester. I required lots of additional qualifications to boost up my resume. I learned selenium but they asked for experience which I didn’t have at that time.

Mobile testing was another testing platform that was growing up. So, I started working on an iPhone app just for learning experience. And then the developer (my husband) told me that I should upload it in the App store. I was like – What, really? According to me, mine was very childish compared to all the other top apps.

As a tester, I had to work hard to develop this small app. I was happy when my app got approved and saw it in the App store for the first time. It was a very happy moment. I felt achieved.

After that, I didn’t get time to do any more. I am hoping that I will start again sooner.

This too shall pass

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You don’t have to tell this only when you feel hopeless, you can also tell this whenever you feel stressed or afraid of something. Such a wonderful magic words.

I have come across many situations before and after marriage where I would wish that the day(s) goes faster. So that we could face whatever is waiting for us in seconds rather than hours or days. When you are facing such days in your life, just remember to tell yourself, whatever that you are facing will pass by and you will not even remember about it in your future. You may remember about the situtation but your mind has the capability to erase how it pained. You may know that you were hurt but you will not feel the pain.

It was my husband who told me this when I didn’t get a job, when I had to work day and night for the whole week, when I felt wounded by my colleagues words, when I was afraid of driving car, when I couldn’t find the ovulation date to get pregnant, when I had my first contraction, during labor and delivery, breastfeeding for the first one year, when we found Lily’s torticollis…I am sure that the list is gonna grow big as day goes by but am sure, I will face it with strength because nothing is gonna be the same forever.

“This too shall pass..”

Don’t Fight in front of kids

Every child would have seen their parents fighting and I am one among them. If we try to find the root cause for everything, then it will mainly be related to one or more of the following –  financial needs, possessiveness, incapacity, feeling helpless and low confidence.

My parents had fight over everything… My mom never liked my dad speaking with any ladies. I and my siblings used to cry whenever they have a fight because of this reason. They learned to control the budget but they never learned how to control their words in front of their children. It hurt us to see them fighting, every time. The only way that they compromised is by my mom doing satya graha for 2 days or so. As the days went on, it became casual for us. We know that they will get back together, no matter how big the fight was..

Now if you ask me, how my childhood days were? All I can remember is their fight and very little happy moments. Sometimes the happy moments will have a small fight. I even remember one fight which happened in the midnight (day of my b’day) when I was 6 years old. It hurts me even now.

My parents taught us one thing from their fights- Never fight before a child. I wouldn’t say, never fight at all because it means that you are having misunderstandings. Fight does make us understand about our partner but fighting in front of our children is the worst thing that you can ever do. Create more happy memories for them. One day, they should be able to tell their spouse that they had a very happy childhood.

I have told many stories to my husband about the happy moments that happened in my school, college or in office but never with my family together. I had to search my brain for atleast 30 seconds to get something like that.

If you have something to fight about, it is ok to let the children know that you are fighting by having it inside your room. But make sure that they also know the reason for your fight and how you are handling it. Because when they grow up, they should know how to handle fights too. They cannot just go and hide in the bedroom and cry for the whole day.

I and my husband always had fight over silly things but it never went more than half a day. It takes a lot of effort to kill your ego and talk, and that is what helped us so far. We are trying to build lots of happy memories for Lily and we hope that our bond will get stronger in the course of our journey.

Still, I am proud about my parents because they stayed together through all these fights even when we had lost hope. They still fight over silly things but we just joke about it now.

Take the clue from stomach…ALWAYS!!!!

We will be leaving US pretty soon so we thought of going to our favorite Chinese restaurant for one last time. We ordered the usual meal for us. Had a nice time!!

Then came the dessert menu. I always leave some space for Tiramisu if we are in that restaurant. The dessert was so good and I was trying to take a mental picture of how it tastes. When there was about two mouthfuls, I was taking the clue from my stomach that it is time to stop. Right at that time, my husband told me that I would definitely be missing this particular dessert when we go back to India. He was right. I loved it. So I didn’t let go off the fork until I had the last piece from my plate. I was happy but my stomach was not.

It wasn’t funny when trying to suppress the vomiting sound that comes out of mouth. But Lily found it totally amusing and she was laughing until I started throwing up into the empty plastic bag that we always had in our car.

I started laughing too…I am sure that this incident will stay in my mind forever though I don’t think I would take it as a reminder to stop eating when my stomach doesn’t want anymore while having my favorite food. Because I am human 🙂

படித்ததில் பிடித்தது

Happened in my life..

சாப்பிட வாப்பா..
என்ற அரை மணி நேர
கெஞ்சலுக்கு பின்
நாம் இருக்கும் இடம் தேடி
சாப்பாட்டுத் தட்டை
கொண்டு வரும்
அண்ணையின் அன்பு..
நூறு அடி தூரம்
ஹோட்டலுக்காக
நடந்து செல்லுகையில்
சுறுக்கென்று வலிக்கிறது!!

Don’t know who the writer is..Nice one!!!

Laugh out loud …

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Laugh out loud that even sorrow wants to see you Smile
Fight hard that even defeat wants to see you Win
Live a life that even death wants to see you Alive

Marriage is not a license to force

I had a conversation with a friend of friend. Hers was arranged marriage, she had a very good qualification but not working now. The fact that she told about her husband wanting her to stop eating chicken or any non-veg dish for that matter was ridiculous to me.  And the worst part is, She Loves Chicken.

He had allowed her to order chicken when they went to restaurants but this came to the notice of her in-laws and they made the condition of not eating chicken very strictly.  Man..that was rude. If they are so worried about it, why did they select her for their son or the guy who selected her as his wife??? I didn’t even met this guy once but already started having bad feelings about him.  They should have told about this straight before the marriage or they should have selected someone who doesn’t eat non-veg. What the heck of telling her to stop eating something that she likes just because they feel bad about eating it??

I asked my husband if he has drinking habit because I don’t like it. And I know that I cannot ask someone to stop doing something they love to do.  So if he had told yes, I wouldn’t have agreed to the marriage. Ok the point is, how can you force someone to sacrifice just because they share your name???  I felt pity for that poor girl.  I could tell that she was  not happy when she told me that.

Yeah I shouldn’t forget to tell here that I too ask my husband to stop using his iPhone when he his home. We tried it because Lily became too addictive and she started asking for it. So, now he tries to use it less than before but he couldn’t stop.

Guys/Girls, if you have anything that you would want as a special quality from your spouse, then talk about it before marriage. Forcing someone to sacrifice is different from one’s own thought to sacrifice.

Does anyone has experience like this? And how did you manage it?